FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE.

Do you still have unforgiveness issues?

Have you forgiven all that have offended you?

Have you asked forgiveness to those you have offended/hurt?

Have you tried forgiving someone even if she hasn’t asked for it?

Which is easier for you, to forgive or to ask for forgiveness?

Saying sorry is sometimes very challenging for me. I have difficulty saying it, especially saying it without giving reasons and justifications first. I always regard saying sorry as admitting that she is right and that I am wrong. But saying sorry actually means you are ACKNOWLEDGING that YOU have hurt the other person. So when you say sorry, you are actually VALIDATING their feelings. What you are trying to communicate to them is that you acknowledge that YOU HAVE HURT their feelings. And you are sorry for that.

I’ve learned this recently through a friend who was trying to tell me that not being able to say sorry means not admitting you’re at fault, in short, being prideful.

Do we really need to raise the white flag? Will it hurt us to do it?

Definitely, YES. Apologizing is very important in any relationship (friends, co-workers, churchmates, family and even to Him). And knowing when to raise the white flag and admit your fault is not a defeat but rather an opportunity to grow and live in peace. We’ve asked God so many times for the virtue of humility. But most of the time we fail to recognize that saying sorry is an opportunity for us to increase in that virtue.

1) FORGIVING IS NOT A ONE SIDED LOVE AFFAIR

Forgiveness is not like an unrequited love that has only one side. There are two parts in forgiving.

One- the part of the offender (to ask for forgiveness)

Two- the part of the offended (to release his/her forgiveness)

And these two parts are actually the same in the eyes of God. If you can’t ask forgiveness, or if you can’t release forgiveness, both are sins. They are still bitterness and unforgiveness.

I had a recent situation with my sister and it took me awhile to realize I had offended her and so I sent her a message saying my apologies to her. And I am still waiting for her reply. And by the way, it is VERY IMPORTANT that when you say sorry you DO NOT say your excuse first. Just say you are sorry that you have hurt his/her feelings and then stop and let that person digest what you said. After a while THEN you can tell him/her why you said or did what you did.

In this scenario, I have done the first part, but the second part of forgiveness which is supposed to be coming from my sister has not happened yet. God will deal with her, it’s between her and God this time (but of course God will expect higher return from Christians rather than from non-believers).

What if the offended person releases forgiveness right away even if the offender did not ask for it?

“MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO LIVE IN PEACE with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” Hebrews 12:14,15 NIV

“Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.” Hebrews 12:15NLT

“Get rid of all the bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4: 31-32

2) CHOOSE TO FORGIVE RIGHT AWAY

I offended my sister but did not admit that I was in the wrong RIGHT AWAY. Did not ask forgiveness for a long time and it caused her to be bitter towards me. She got more angry and unforgiving towards me. See?? Had I asked for forgiveness right away she would have forgiven me and bitterness would not have had a chance to take root, right?

In this scenario it will be advantageous for the offended person since she will enjoy the blessing of not having any grudge or root of bitterness in his/her heart.

“Forgiveness is not a state of emotion or a feeling. It is a decision, a choice that you have to make.” – Joel Osteen (in his book Your Best Life Now)

Why? What’s the proof?

Look at those people who are old and are in their death beds but are still holding a grudge against other people. If it is indeed true that time heals, then they should have healed already since they are already old, for sure time has passed, but WHY HAVEN’T THEY? That is because they have NOT CHOSEN to forgive. Yes, time helps but time does not heal.

3) GOD FORGIVES! WHY CAN’T I?

“Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?” Matthew 18:33

“Brothers, Listen We are here to proclaim that through this man Jesus, there is forgiveness for your sins.” Acts 13:38 NLT

It is true that it can be hard for others to release forgiveness to their offenders. Yet God reminded us that even if we are not worthy to be forgiven and saved, He still did forgive and save us. Our sins, though MANY and GREAT, may be forgiven and that will not cause any injury to God’s honour. The same with us; forgiving or asking for forgiveness will not cause us dishonour. In fact, contrary to the standards of the world, asking for forgiveness will give us high esteem in the eyes of God because we were able to swallow our pride and admit our mistake. That is CHARACTER!

Take Away: FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE. CHOOSE TO FORGIVE NOW. NOT LATER.

ARE YOU NOW READY TO ASK FORGIVENESS AND RELEASE FORGIVENESS?

Magic

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Shall I wait or not?

I’ve talked so much about waiting because that is mainly the reason why I am here and why you are all here. I’ve made a post several times about waiting and that is prolly one of the most common question some men and women here have asked?

Is there really a destiny for us?

Can true love be found online?

Am I going to be married?

Am I going to receive God’s best?

Will I let go and let God?

Shall I trust again?

How long shall I wait?

 

I’ve told myself several times, I will let go and let Him work what’s best for me. I am not going to wait for anyone, but instead I am going to enjoy my walk with Him and get on with my life. I have stumbled several times already just because I followed my own imperfect will, so this time I surrender everything to Him and just want to trust Him.

I am going to relate this idea of waiting with the recent clumsiness that happened to me. I ordered 2 pairs of shoes from my cousin, one was a wedge and the other one was a formal black shoes. I don’t buy a whole lot of shoes because I don’t work in an office, but just recently I worked as a teacher so I needed to invest on good shoes.The order did not arrive yet so, I was a dissatisfied
customer, but I just have to wait for it to arrive because the good thing about ordering from her is
that I could pay it the next month.

But Payday came and salary was deposited. I was walking at the mall near our place and suddenly I found myself inside a shoe store. And fell in love with a pair of wedge shoes. And pulled some bills from my wallet and paid for it. The next day I was so excited to wear it. I made sure my nails were clean with my favorite blue green nail polish. I was wearing a good dress. The color of my bag
matched the color of the new pair of shoes (pretending to have a good fashion sense). I was strutting with finesse, I was strutting like a lady, then suddenly some small part of my shoes fell on the floor and I noticed that the strap had let go of my ankle. Boom! It was the end of a 10 dollar wedge shoes. I have to find a way (Mentos way- Filipinos love to quote it that way when there’s
a sudden misfortune or clumsiness e.g. one shoe got damaged, you also make the other shoe be damaged, it’s a popular TV ad) to be able to walk despite the damage. Embarrassment was an additional perk by the way.

I know God has been telling me alot of times already that I just need to wait for the shoes I already ordered, yet I went on my own and got so excited, I even felt good after buying it, for some reason it felt so perfect. Then, BOOM! The shoes died on me.

In the same way, I feel like that in waiting for the special guy God wants me to be. I shall trust His will in my life, I shall trust His perfect and pleasing will in my life. I don’t have to go against His will. I don’t have to go on my own again. It might end up like that of the pair of shoes.

Lord I shall surrender all my personal desires to you (this is very hard), and I shall trust for Your will
be done in my life.

 

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Victorious weekend

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Dear everyone,

I got baptized. Today marks the death of the old me. The old is gone, the new has come. April 6, 2013. The best weekend of my life. I am happy to post these pictures here, I am happy to make this public declaration that today I am a new creation. 

I want to say Thank You to Rosario Benitez, the person who led me to one2one. Thank you for your overflowing patience and persistence to continue despite all the hindrances and excuses, In God, truly nothing is impossible. Continue to be passionate about sharing God’s word to the people around you, continue to let your light shine, so people would see Jesus in you. You did a great job in taming a person like me. Great job God. You are indeed powerful. 

To my VGMates; Mira Joy, Matet, Glen, Vanessa, Faith, Daisy Jean, Franz, including Nessie. Thank you for sharing your wonderful lives with me. Your lives have become my inspiration to enjoy my walk with Jesus. Thank you for this Godly friendship. God chose each and everyone of us to be part of this one beautiful group, and this is something we all have to cherish and relish. Thank you beautiful women of God.

Thank you Holy Spirit for revealing Your residence in me. I am still in awe. I am still surprised. I am still amazed. I am completely raving for words. I have never thought I could propel this way. Your power is unfathomable, indescribable, inexplicable. I just want to thank you even more, that you will continue to guide me, that you will continue to nourish me, as I continue to crave for You. 

Today, I am a new creation. Lord, thank you that my past has been deleted, my past has been freed, my past has been removed in Your Database Father God, that I am no longer a slave of sins. Your love is everything and You have healed my past Father God. Thank you for your abounding love, abounding grace, your abounding forgiveness Father God. Today I am a new ME.

Victory Weekend is a quarterly event of Victory Christian Fellowship. This is done to people who have undergone one2one and those who want to experience Jesus, those who want to deepen their relationship with Jesus. It is a 2 day training with lots of interesting topics. In the second day, Baptism of water usually takes place. And I am proud to say, I have experienced all these, and I am now ready to be equipped.

 

Yours truly,

Magic

Passport to Heaven

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My Prayer: I am a sinner, I am not worthy of your love Father, I have hurt you so badly, so deeply that it left a big scar on you, Yet you forgave me and offered heaven as a gift to me, Lord, thank you that despite my mishap and flaws you remain faithful to me, you remain a Father to me. A father who accepted me for what I am, for who I am. A father who gave me everything, a father who offered an everlasting love (Jer 31:3). Thank you father, I offer my life to you. For you deserve all the glory and honor and praise and love. Thank you Father. I love you. 

 

Your daughter,

Magic

M&M’s Sunday School

sundayMagic and Maria’s New Adventure. A free Sunday School for those children living nearby R. Sacedon St. Poblacion Hagonoy Davao del Sur.

Maria Corazon is teaching part time at one of the Universities in Davao del Sur. And I am an entrepreneur with so many things going on my brain. I work 4hours part time doing stuff on the Internet, I work full time as Reliv Distributor/Provincial Leader going to Pharmacies in Mindanao areas.

 

We both are mothers. We both are conversationalists. And now we both are TEACHERS. We will be teaching this new generation. We will teach with the big J. Teaching with Joy and with Jesus. See you this Sunday!