FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE.

Do you still have unforgiveness issues?

Have you forgiven all that have offended you?

Have you asked forgiveness to those you have offended/hurt?

Have you tried forgiving someone even if she hasn’t asked for it?

Which is easier for you, to forgive or to ask for forgiveness?

Saying sorry is sometimes very challenging for me. I have difficulty saying it, especially saying it without giving reasons and justifications first. I always regard saying sorry as admitting that she is right and that I am wrong. But saying sorry actually means you are ACKNOWLEDGING that YOU have hurt the other person. So when you say sorry, you are actually VALIDATING their feelings. What you are trying to communicate to them is that you acknowledge that YOU HAVE HURT their feelings. And you are sorry for that.

I’ve learned this recently through a friend who was trying to tell me that not being able to say sorry means not admitting you’re at fault, in short, being prideful.

Do we really need to raise the white flag? Will it hurt us to do it?

Definitely, YES. Apologizing is very important in any relationship (friends, co-workers, churchmates, family and even to Him). And knowing when to raise the white flag and admit your fault is not a defeat but rather an opportunity to grow and live in peace. We’ve asked God so many times for the virtue of humility. But most of the time we fail to recognize that saying sorry is an opportunity for us to increase in that virtue.

1) FORGIVING IS NOT A ONE SIDED LOVE AFFAIR

Forgiveness is not like an unrequited love that has only one side. There are two parts in forgiving.

One- the part of the offender (to ask for forgiveness)

Two- the part of the offended (to release his/her forgiveness)

And these two parts are actually the same in the eyes of God. If you can’t ask forgiveness, or if you can’t release forgiveness, both are sins. They are still bitterness and unforgiveness.

I had a recent situation with my sister and it took me awhile to realize I had offended her and so I sent her a message saying my apologies to her. And I am still waiting for her reply. And by the way, it is VERY IMPORTANT that when you say sorry you DO NOT say your excuse first. Just say you are sorry that you have hurt his/her feelings and then stop and let that person digest what you said. After a while THEN you can tell him/her why you said or did what you did.

In this scenario, I have done the first part, but the second part of forgiveness which is supposed to be coming from my sister has not happened yet. God will deal with her, it’s between her and God this time (but of course God will expect higher return from Christians rather than from non-believers).

What if the offended person releases forgiveness right away even if the offender did not ask for it?

“MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO LIVE IN PEACE with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” Hebrews 12:14,15 NIV

“Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.” Hebrews 12:15NLT

“Get rid of all the bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4: 31-32

2) CHOOSE TO FORGIVE RIGHT AWAY

I offended my sister but did not admit that I was in the wrong RIGHT AWAY. Did not ask forgiveness for a long time and it caused her to be bitter towards me. She got more angry and unforgiving towards me. See?? Had I asked for forgiveness right away she would have forgiven me and bitterness would not have had a chance to take root, right?

In this scenario it will be advantageous for the offended person since she will enjoy the blessing of not having any grudge or root of bitterness in his/her heart.

“Forgiveness is not a state of emotion or a feeling. It is a decision, a choice that you have to make.” – Joel Osteen (in his book Your Best Life Now)

Why? What’s the proof?

Look at those people who are old and are in their death beds but are still holding a grudge against other people. If it is indeed true that time heals, then they should have healed already since they are already old, for sure time has passed, but WHY HAVEN’T THEY? That is because they have NOT CHOSEN to forgive. Yes, time helps but time does not heal.

3) GOD FORGIVES! WHY CAN’T I?

“Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?” Matthew 18:33

“Brothers, Listen We are here to proclaim that through this man Jesus, there is forgiveness for your sins.” Acts 13:38 NLT

It is true that it can be hard for others to release forgiveness to their offenders. Yet God reminded us that even if we are not worthy to be forgiven and saved, He still did forgive and save us. Our sins, though MANY and GREAT, may be forgiven and that will not cause any injury to God’s honour. The same with us; forgiving or asking for forgiveness will not cause us dishonour. In fact, contrary to the standards of the world, asking for forgiveness will give us high esteem in the eyes of God because we were able to swallow our pride and admit our mistake. That is CHARACTER!

Take Away: FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE. CHOOSE TO FORGIVE NOW. NOT LATER.

ARE YOU NOW READY TO ASK FORGIVENESS AND RELEASE FORGIVENESS?

Magic

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Shall I wait or not?

I’ve talked so much about waiting because that is mainly the reason why I am here and why you are all here. I’ve made a post several times about waiting and that is prolly one of the most common question some men and women here have asked?

Is there really a destiny for us?

Can true love be found online?

Am I going to be married?

Am I going to receive God’s best?

Will I let go and let God?

Shall I trust again?

How long shall I wait?

 

I’ve told myself several times, I will let go and let Him work what’s best for me. I am not going to wait for anyone, but instead I am going to enjoy my walk with Him and get on with my life. I have stumbled several times already just because I followed my own imperfect will, so this time I surrender everything to Him and just want to trust Him.

I am going to relate this idea of waiting with the recent clumsiness that happened to me. I ordered 2 pairs of shoes from my cousin, one was a wedge and the other one was a formal black shoes. I don’t buy a whole lot of shoes because I don’t work in an office, but just recently I worked as a teacher so I needed to invest on good shoes.The order did not arrive yet so, I was a dissatisfied
customer, but I just have to wait for it to arrive because the good thing about ordering from her is
that I could pay it the next month.

But Payday came and salary was deposited. I was walking at the mall near our place and suddenly I found myself inside a shoe store. And fell in love with a pair of wedge shoes. And pulled some bills from my wallet and paid for it. The next day I was so excited to wear it. I made sure my nails were clean with my favorite blue green nail polish. I was wearing a good dress. The color of my bag
matched the color of the new pair of shoes (pretending to have a good fashion sense). I was strutting with finesse, I was strutting like a lady, then suddenly some small part of my shoes fell on the floor and I noticed that the strap had let go of my ankle. Boom! It was the end of a 10 dollar wedge shoes. I have to find a way (Mentos way- Filipinos love to quote it that way when there’s
a sudden misfortune or clumsiness e.g. one shoe got damaged, you also make the other shoe be damaged, it’s a popular TV ad) to be able to walk despite the damage. Embarrassment was an additional perk by the way.

I know God has been telling me alot of times already that I just need to wait for the shoes I already ordered, yet I went on my own and got so excited, I even felt good after buying it, for some reason it felt so perfect. Then, BOOM! The shoes died on me.

In the same way, I feel like that in waiting for the special guy God wants me to be. I shall trust His will in my life, I shall trust His perfect and pleasing will in my life. I don’t have to go against His will. I don’t have to go on my own again. It might end up like that of the pair of shoes.

Lord I shall surrender all my personal desires to you (this is very hard), and I shall trust for Your will
be done in my life.

 

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What are your dreams?

I have looked at my dreamboard again and I am reminded of my dreams. I have so many dreams for myself. I have so many dreams to reach. But am I closer to getting them? I wrote them and put pictures on it just so I could visualize them. I have done it 2 years ago, I have 7 more years to comply for it.

-Bloody Red Mazda 3
-House in the middle of the woods with 3 bedroom/2 bath made mostly of wood.
-Vacation in Prague, New Zealand and Japan
-College Education for daughter-DONE
-School for free teaching English and Values
-Hospital somewhere in Bukidnon that offers no medicine, no surgery, no radiation but just plain nutrition, no pollution, fresh air, organic fruits and vegetables (joint venture with my friend)

I know some of my dreams are only for myself because I believe God’s promise in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I follow this mnemonic M-A-G-I-C from a young friend of mine Jan Hilado who is already an author of a book called Rich, Real, Radical.

M-easurable. Don’t just say I want a happy family. Say I want a happy family with 1 boy, 2 girls in 2015.

A-mbitious. Ambition is not a negative word, it simply means you dream high, you aim high. Because bigger dreams can actually keep someone excited. Make it attainable as well.

G-odly. Dreams that are not Godly can make someone miserable and empty. Notice that the G is actually in the middle of the word MAGIC because that only means that God should be the center of our dreams. He is the Great source. He is the richest among the rich. Discover the dreams that God has placed in your heart. I am really dreaming of building my own school and educate the young children for a better and beautiful tomorrow.

I-maginative. I can now imagine my house in the middle of the woods as a matter of fact I browsed the internet and looked for something that is almost the same with what I have in mind.I want to be married to a man with blue eyes, blonde hair, strong arms, taller than me, inlove with God and have heart for service.

C-omplete. Your dreams should touch all important aspects in your life; spiritual, family, physical, financial.

What triggered me to write this post is the message that I received today, I was invited to teach again at the University of Southeastern Philippines for another 10 days and I was like asking myself, shall I do this or not? But how can I say NO to 40 incoming college students who I can probably inspire, who will need God in their lives.

Lord thank you for this beautiful reminder. Thank you that you are lining up things in my favor: the right people, the right breaks, the right opportunities. I surrender my mind, my heart, my will and my emotions and even these dreams of mine Father God, so that I can live as a testimony of Your work in my life.

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UNCONQUERABLE: My own version of INVICTUS

I wrote this poem some three years ago before my Surgery and Radioactive Iodine, I didn’t know anything about Jesus, about His healing power yet He had been with me even when I was not even thinking of Him, I relied on my own strength, trusted my own not knowing there is a greater God after all who can heal all kinds of diseases.

Through the ups and downs,
over  the rough and ease of life

Remarkably enduring people whose setbacks turned to be an ambition
remained strong and unshaken

In the midst of all nerve-wracking fiasco
remained to be holding on to the myriad dreams

Unsought and unasked yet their hearts are filled with so much joy
for the magnitude of their hardships corresponds to their hearts’ desires

Moving, Steering, Moving forward to the direction known as success
no hesitation, no surrender, no retreat until victory is attained

Prevailing ’til the end of time, ‘Tis a battle I want to win, ‘Tis a battle I shall win
A battle where no one gets hurt, no pain all but gain

Havoc is everywhere, And hope is power
Two confounding options I shall revere.

And I shall use these means to become stronger and emerge a winner
I shall not fear!  I shall not fear!

No suffering will ever be worth it without overcoming
In life, we all have to fight instead of crying and whining

To the cancer cells growing in my neck, to the cancer cells which make my life even more worthwhile
I shall fight, I shall win and I shall stand with a smile.

 

Now that I am a born again Christian, here’s my own version of INVICTUS (Unconquerable)

PSALM 27

The Lord is my light and my salvation—

whom shall I fear?

The Lord is the stronghold of my life—

of whom shall I be afraid?

When the wicked advance against me

to devour me,

it is my enemies and my foes

who will stumble and fall.

Though an army besiege me,

my heart will not fear;

though war break out against me,

even then I will be confident.

One thing I ask from the Lord,

this only do I seek:

that I may dwell in the house of the Lord

all the days of my life,

to gaze on the beauty of the Lord

and to seek him in his temple.

For in the day of trouble

he will keep me safe in his dwelling;

he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent

and set me high upon a rock.

Then my head will be exalted

above the enemies who surround me;

at his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy;

I will sing and make music to the Lord.

Hear my voice when I call, Lord;

be merciful to me and answer me.

My heart says of you, “Seek his face!”

Your face, Lord, I will seek.

Do not hide your face from me,

do not turn your servant away in anger;

you have been my helper.

Do not reject me or forsake me,

God my Savior.

Though my father and mother forsake me,

the Lord will receive me.

Teach me your way, Lord;

lead me in a straight path

because of my oppressors.

Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes,

for false witnesses rise up against me,

spouting malicious accusations.

I remain confident of this:

I will see the goodness of the Lord

in the land of the living.

Wait for the Lord;

be strong and take heart

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The secret to finding true happiness

Today, I had a chance to share alot of things to my students and this was the very first thing I shared with them this morning;

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

© Max Ehrmann 1927

 

And I am in so much awe of God’s amazing power. He is moving in my life. He is certainly using my talents and skills to be able to advance me and other people to His Kingdom. I have never been this bold in sharing God’s words and telling people His Great Love but I can’t help it. My mouth, my mind. They are moving 1 million miles per hour. 

I love this poem. I love its meaning and how easy it is to understand.I love its symbolisms. I had shared so many experiences to my dear students and I am so happy to see that after 8 long hours of lessons no one ever showed signs of sleepiness. Thank you Dear God for opening up their hearts. Thank you for your overwhelming and abounding love to these young adults. May you continue to shine in their lives.

And here are my students performing DESIDERATA in SPEECH CHOIR.

And of course their beautiful teacher. (I did not teach my students over confidence, Ok?)

The truth frees us from confusion

I was tasked to lead the group last night for a very short notice that I did not know what to talk about. Then suddenly I am reminded of the previous days I have been crying over nothing.

To all of you who are reading this topic: Is there something you are confused about? Is there something that bothers you these past few days? What did you do about it?

Ok here is my answer: Yes, I was deeply bothered by the truth that my ex boyfriend is completely over me, I cried and prayed to God to embrace me with His love alone.

There are 3 points I want to share with you

1. GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF OUR CONFUSION.

James 1:5 says “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”

God is never the other of our confusion but he is the author of our wisdom.

2. GOD IS THE SHEPHERD OF OUR SOULS.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.”

It is a 100 percent guarantee that God will lead us because we are His sheep.

3. GOD WILL REPLACE UNCERTAINTY WITH WISDOM


Isaiah 30:21 says “
Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.”

God will shine the light of truth on the situations in our lives and set us free to make good choices.

God’s promises are really amazing. He said that when we feel confused, come to Him and He will settle our minds until we can hear Him clearly again. We just have to trust in Him, Take refuge in Him, Obey His words. 

My prayer: Lord thank you for leading me into the green pastures of peace and confidence. I will only lean on You Father God. Thank you Lord that you are going to remove all these confusions and transform them into wisdom. Amen.

 

Victorious weekend

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Dear everyone,

I got baptized. Today marks the death of the old me. The old is gone, the new has come. April 6, 2013. The best weekend of my life. I am happy to post these pictures here, I am happy to make this public declaration that today I am a new creation. 

I want to say Thank You to Rosario Benitez, the person who led me to one2one. Thank you for your overflowing patience and persistence to continue despite all the hindrances and excuses, In God, truly nothing is impossible. Continue to be passionate about sharing God’s word to the people around you, continue to let your light shine, so people would see Jesus in you. You did a great job in taming a person like me. Great job God. You are indeed powerful. 

To my VGMates; Mira Joy, Matet, Glen, Vanessa, Faith, Daisy Jean, Franz, including Nessie. Thank you for sharing your wonderful lives with me. Your lives have become my inspiration to enjoy my walk with Jesus. Thank you for this Godly friendship. God chose each and everyone of us to be part of this one beautiful group, and this is something we all have to cherish and relish. Thank you beautiful women of God.

Thank you Holy Spirit for revealing Your residence in me. I am still in awe. I am still surprised. I am still amazed. I am completely raving for words. I have never thought I could propel this way. Your power is unfathomable, indescribable, inexplicable. I just want to thank you even more, that you will continue to guide me, that you will continue to nourish me, as I continue to crave for You. 

Today, I am a new creation. Lord, thank you that my past has been deleted, my past has been freed, my past has been removed in Your Database Father God, that I am no longer a slave of sins. Your love is everything and You have healed my past Father God. Thank you for your abounding love, abounding grace, your abounding forgiveness Father God. Today I am a new ME.

Victory Weekend is a quarterly event of Victory Christian Fellowship. This is done to people who have undergone one2one and those who want to experience Jesus, those who want to deepen their relationship with Jesus. It is a 2 day training with lots of interesting topics. In the second day, Baptism of water usually takes place. And I am proud to say, I have experienced all these, and I am now ready to be equipped.

 

Yours truly,

Magic