What is happiness to you? What makes you happy? What gives you the sense of contentment? I also asked myself the same questions, What can make me truly and deeply happy? What is it that makes me happy? Money? Success? Accomplishment? I am still in my quest to finding what is happiness. I want to pursue my dreams and give my daughter the life that she deserves. This is certainly something that I want. Something that every single mothers want. I want to fulfill my dreams, to be successful in my chosen field and be able to provide for my daughter and live comfortably. Who wants to live in discomfort anyway? Then I learned that happiness for me is getting the things I want, happiness for me is being successful, happiness for me is fulfilling my dreams, happiness for me is living in comfort. Is this the kind of life that I want? Is this my purpose in life?
Writer Leo Rosten wrote, “The purpose of life is not to be happy, but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to make a difference in this world.” I have also asked myself several times, especially when I visit a wake in the neighborhood, would my disappearance leave the world poorer or just less crowded? Now my view of happiness has changed. To be happy means to live a meaningful life.
Now another important question we need to answer, How to live a meaningful life?
This is my guide but you can also try this.
1. CHOOSE TO LIVE A GOD- CENTERED LIFE
Yes, I am a baby born again Christian and still growing and still a work in progress. But I am gearing towards having a mature and personal relationship with God. Because having a personal relationship with Him can free us from the anxiety of meaningless existence. Today I am reminded “That in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to God’s purpose.”
We are all humans, imperfect, flawed, sinful, selfish…Yet having a relationship with God will draw us out of our preoccupation with our own interests and will enable us to minister to the needs of others.
2. CHOOSE TO BE THANKFUL
Make it a practice. Get two sheets of paper. On one paper write your fears, doubts, worries, problems. On the other sheet write all the things you are grateful for. And then check the result. I’ve tried it and I was surprised with the result. Be faithful to those little things God gave you so you can be trusted with bigger things.
3. CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY
Live.Love.Laugh. If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands. Just simply clap your hands. Every single thing we have can be taken away from us. Money? can be robbed. Success? can disappear. Our friends? Our family? The people around us? They are not ours. One thing that we can keep is our attitude towards any given circumstance. So while reading this, YOU CLAP YOUR HANDS! BE HAPPY!
oh!These flowers are burst of sunshine! It makes me happy!
4. CHOOSE TO FORGIVE
Bitterness, grudges can suffocate us. I am human. I still have forgiveness issues and I am working on it, working very hard.
Another reminder today, “For in the same way you judge others, Christ said, You will be judged.” Matthew 7:2.
And it’s definitely hard when the one thing that you can’t forgive is yourself.
5. CHOOSE TO LOVE OTHERS
I know loving involves risk. But what’s worse is not taking risk at all.
6. CHOOSE TO WORK AT SOMETHING MEANINGFUL AND FULFILLING
Maria and I started our Sunday School last Sunday and it was a success and it is a very fulfilling feeling to be able to help others.
I CHOSE TO SERVE.
7. CHOOSE TO BE OPTIMISTIC
It’s very simple. When life hands you a lemon, make a lemonade. I am sure that there are a whole lot of people out there who experienced misfortunes more than you do. So just be thankful, be happy, be optimistic. Transform obstacles into opportunities.
Life is beautiful. And how to make it more beautiful is to live a meaningful life.
Now tell me what is your criteria of happiness?