FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE.

Do you still have unforgiveness issues?

Have you forgiven all that have offended you?

Have you asked forgiveness to those you have offended/hurt?

Have you tried forgiving someone even if she hasn’t asked for it?

Which is easier for you, to forgive or to ask for forgiveness?

Saying sorry is sometimes very challenging for me. I have difficulty saying it, especially saying it without giving reasons and justifications first. I always regard saying sorry as admitting that she is right and that I am wrong. But saying sorry actually means you are ACKNOWLEDGING that YOU have hurt the other person. So when you say sorry, you are actually VALIDATING their feelings. What you are trying to communicate to them is that you acknowledge that YOU HAVE HURT their feelings. And you are sorry for that.

I’ve learned this recently through a friend who was trying to tell me that not being able to say sorry means not admitting you’re at fault, in short, being prideful.

Do we really need to raise the white flag? Will it hurt us to do it?

Definitely, YES. Apologizing is very important in any relationship (friends, co-workers, churchmates, family and even to Him). And knowing when to raise the white flag and admit your fault is not a defeat but rather an opportunity to grow and live in peace. We’ve asked God so many times for the virtue of humility. But most of the time we fail to recognize that saying sorry is an opportunity for us to increase in that virtue.

1) FORGIVING IS NOT A ONE SIDED LOVE AFFAIR

Forgiveness is not like an unrequited love that has only one side. There are two parts in forgiving.

One- the part of the offender (to ask for forgiveness)

Two- the part of the offended (to release his/her forgiveness)

And these two parts are actually the same in the eyes of God. If you can’t ask forgiveness, or if you can’t release forgiveness, both are sins. They are still bitterness and unforgiveness.

I had a recent situation with my sister and it took me awhile to realize I had offended her and so I sent her a message saying my apologies to her. And I am still waiting for her reply. And by the way, it is VERY IMPORTANT that when you say sorry you DO NOT say your excuse first. Just say you are sorry that you have hurt his/her feelings and then stop and let that person digest what you said. After a while THEN you can tell him/her why you said or did what you did.

In this scenario, I have done the first part, but the second part of forgiveness which is supposed to be coming from my sister has not happened yet. God will deal with her, it’s between her and God this time (but of course God will expect higher return from Christians rather than from non-believers).

What if the offended person releases forgiveness right away even if the offender did not ask for it?

“MAKE EVERY EFFORT TO LIVE IN PEACE with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” Hebrews 12:14,15 NIV

“Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.” Hebrews 12:15NLT

“Get rid of all the bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4: 31-32

2) CHOOSE TO FORGIVE RIGHT AWAY

I offended my sister but did not admit that I was in the wrong RIGHT AWAY. Did not ask forgiveness for a long time and it caused her to be bitter towards me. She got more angry and unforgiving towards me. See?? Had I asked for forgiveness right away she would have forgiven me and bitterness would not have had a chance to take root, right?

In this scenario it will be advantageous for the offended person since she will enjoy the blessing of not having any grudge or root of bitterness in his/her heart.

“Forgiveness is not a state of emotion or a feeling. It is a decision, a choice that you have to make.” – Joel Osteen (in his book Your Best Life Now)

Why? What’s the proof?

Look at those people who are old and are in their death beds but are still holding a grudge against other people. If it is indeed true that time heals, then they should have healed already since they are already old, for sure time has passed, but WHY HAVEN’T THEY? That is because they have NOT CHOSEN to forgive. Yes, time helps but time does not heal.

3) GOD FORGIVES! WHY CAN’T I?

“Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?” Matthew 18:33

“Brothers, Listen We are here to proclaim that through this man Jesus, there is forgiveness for your sins.” Acts 13:38 NLT

It is true that it can be hard for others to release forgiveness to their offenders. Yet God reminded us that even if we are not worthy to be forgiven and saved, He still did forgive and save us. Our sins, though MANY and GREAT, may be forgiven and that will not cause any injury to God’s honour. The same with us; forgiving or asking for forgiveness will not cause us dishonour. In fact, contrary to the standards of the world, asking for forgiveness will give us high esteem in the eyes of God because we were able to swallow our pride and admit our mistake. That is CHARACTER!

Take Away: FORGIVENESS IS A CHOICE. CHOOSE TO FORGIVE NOW. NOT LATER.

ARE YOU NOW READY TO ASK FORGIVENESS AND RELEASE FORGIVENESS?

Magic

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Foodgasm: Chopsuey in Ka Rey Seafood sa Kubo Restaurant

I am not a food blogger nor a traveler, What am I? I am someone who wants to just enjoy my food, enjoy my experience in every places I visit. I tasted the best vegetarian chopsuey in Tagaytay.

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Ka Rey Seafood sa Kubo Restaurant, Tagaytay City

For those who enjoy eating vegetables and some Filipino food, this is one of the best place in Tagaytay that you should not miss. I happened to be incited by a friend who loves to eat vegetables to a late lunch treat at Ka Rey Seafood sa Kubo Restaurant located at Aguinaldo Highway Maitim II East, Tagaytay City. If you are from Manila it’s 2 kilometers before the Rotunda.

Ambience is also great, you have to leave your footwear before you enter the Kubo (Nipa Hut), There is a display of bananas at the entrance and you can eat all you want for free. You will also be served appetizers such as peanuts, turnip, etc. The food
prices range from 150-400 pesos. But it’s really worth it. They serve the best chopsuey in town, They have all sorts of Filipino food like Lechong Kawali, Calamares, Tilapia, Boneless Milkfish, Mostly seafoods and vegetables. You should also try their Karey seafood kare-kare.

And since Filipinos nowadays love to post pictures right away. Ka Rey (although just a nipa hut) restaurant has FREE WIFI. So you can tweet, post a status, post a shareable selfie on Facebook and Instagram.

Happy Eating!

Shall I wait or not?

I’ve talked so much about waiting because that is mainly the reason why I am here and why you are all here. I’ve made a post several times about waiting and that is prolly one of the most common question some men and women here have asked?

Is there really a destiny for us?

Can true love be found online?

Am I going to be married?

Am I going to receive God’s best?

Will I let go and let God?

Shall I trust again?

How long shall I wait?

 

I’ve told myself several times, I will let go and let Him work what’s best for me. I am not going to wait for anyone, but instead I am going to enjoy my walk with Him and get on with my life. I have stumbled several times already just because I followed my own imperfect will, so this time I surrender everything to Him and just want to trust Him.

I am going to relate this idea of waiting with the recent clumsiness that happened to me. I ordered 2 pairs of shoes from my cousin, one was a wedge and the other one was a formal black shoes. I don’t buy a whole lot of shoes because I don’t work in an office, but just recently I worked as a teacher so I needed to invest on good shoes.The order did not arrive yet so, I was a dissatisfied
customer, but I just have to wait for it to arrive because the good thing about ordering from her is
that I could pay it the next month.

But Payday came and salary was deposited. I was walking at the mall near our place and suddenly I found myself inside a shoe store. And fell in love with a pair of wedge shoes. And pulled some bills from my wallet and paid for it. The next day I was so excited to wear it. I made sure my nails were clean with my favorite blue green nail polish. I was wearing a good dress. The color of my bag
matched the color of the new pair of shoes (pretending to have a good fashion sense). I was strutting with finesse, I was strutting like a lady, then suddenly some small part of my shoes fell on the floor and I noticed that the strap had let go of my ankle. Boom! It was the end of a 10 dollar wedge shoes. I have to find a way (Mentos way- Filipinos love to quote it that way when there’s
a sudden misfortune or clumsiness e.g. one shoe got damaged, you also make the other shoe be damaged, it’s a popular TV ad) to be able to walk despite the damage. Embarrassment was an additional perk by the way.

I know God has been telling me alot of times already that I just need to wait for the shoes I already ordered, yet I went on my own and got so excited, I even felt good after buying it, for some reason it felt so perfect. Then, BOOM! The shoes died on me.

In the same way, I feel like that in waiting for the special guy God wants me to be. I shall trust His will in my life, I shall trust His perfect and pleasing will in my life. I don’t have to go against His will. I don’t have to go on my own again. It might end up like that of the pair of shoes.

Lord I shall surrender all my personal desires to you (this is very hard), and I shall trust for Your will
be done in my life.

 

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What’s wrong with dreaming?

What’s wrong with dreaming those blue eyes? Is there a law forbidding me not to dream?

What’s wrong with dreaming a hospital for Cancer Patients? I had been a cancer patient myself and I know how all the chemotherapy and radiation can destroy ones body?

What’s wrong with dreaming comfort? A house and a car? Almost 2 decades my parents struggled working under the scorching heat of the sun, farming the land that was not ours. I walked some 7 kilometers everyday back and forth for 10 years in order to go to school. Am I not allowed to dream on that while I am still on earth?

What’s wrong with dreaming a school for the out of school youth? I have seen so many young adults in our neighborhood that wanted to go to school but cannot because of their parents’ meager income.

I know too well that our intellect and other gifts have been given to be used for God’s greater glory but I also do know that God is taking pleasure in our prosperity and truly enjoying meeting our needs.I know He desires to bless His people His abundance so that I/WE can be a blessing to others and confirm His covenant with ME/US.

I am not going to use the Word of God as an excuse, but this is based on the truth that I know. I believed that we are already redeemed by God with all the curses of the law in Deuteronomy 28. These are spiritual death, sickness and poverty.

 

Deut 28:1-4 (you can open your Bible and read the entirety)

If you fully obey the Lord your God and carefully follow all his commands I give you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will come on you and accompany you if you obey the Lord your God:

You will be blessed in the city and blessed in the country.

The fruit of your womb will be blessed, and the crops of your land and the young of your livestock—the calves of your herds and the lambs of your flocks.

I don’t think any good charitable works one shall do on earth will gain you access to heaven. I am not trying to perform infront of God’s eyes but I just want to claim and believe His promises to be TRUE. Is it wrong to believe His promises? What shall we do on earth? Slack off? and wait for the apple to fall on our mouths just like Juan Tamad (Filipino for “Lazy John”)? Is that the picture of living by Faith?

For me, dreaming for prosperity isn’t that bad, but making our intellect and giftings our very god for us is a sad news. We should not think highly of ourselves than we ought, but remember that everything good in us and all the blessings are gifts from God.

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What are your dreams?

I have looked at my dreamboard again and I am reminded of my dreams. I have so many dreams for myself. I have so many dreams to reach. But am I closer to getting them? I wrote them and put pictures on it just so I could visualize them. I have done it 2 years ago, I have 7 more years to comply for it.

-Bloody Red Mazda 3
-House in the middle of the woods with 3 bedroom/2 bath made mostly of wood.
-Vacation in Prague, New Zealand and Japan
-College Education for daughter-DONE
-School for free teaching English and Values
-Hospital somewhere in Bukidnon that offers no medicine, no surgery, no radiation but just plain nutrition, no pollution, fresh air, organic fruits and vegetables (joint venture with my friend)

I know some of my dreams are only for myself because I believe God’s promise in Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I follow this mnemonic M-A-G-I-C from a young friend of mine Jan Hilado who is already an author of a book called Rich, Real, Radical.

M-easurable. Don’t just say I want a happy family. Say I want a happy family with 1 boy, 2 girls in 2015.

A-mbitious. Ambition is not a negative word, it simply means you dream high, you aim high. Because bigger dreams can actually keep someone excited. Make it attainable as well.

G-odly. Dreams that are not Godly can make someone miserable and empty. Notice that the G is actually in the middle of the word MAGIC because that only means that God should be the center of our dreams. He is the Great source. He is the richest among the rich. Discover the dreams that God has placed in your heart. I am really dreaming of building my own school and educate the young children for a better and beautiful tomorrow.

I-maginative. I can now imagine my house in the middle of the woods as a matter of fact I browsed the internet and looked for something that is almost the same with what I have in mind.I want to be married to a man with blue eyes, blonde hair, strong arms, taller than me, inlove with God and have heart for service.

C-omplete. Your dreams should touch all important aspects in your life; spiritual, family, physical, financial.

What triggered me to write this post is the message that I received today, I was invited to teach again at the University of Southeastern Philippines for another 10 days and I was like asking myself, shall I do this or not? But how can I say NO to 40 incoming college students who I can probably inspire, who will need God in their lives.

Lord thank you for this beautiful reminder. Thank you that you are lining up things in my favor: the right people, the right breaks, the right opportunities. I surrender my mind, my heart, my will and my emotions and even these dreams of mine Father God, so that I can live as a testimony of Your work in my life.

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Are you tired of waiting for the ONE?

I know most of us that are in here are waiting for the ONE. The one true love, like that of Cinderella. I am just going to relate my experience as a mother because some of us that are here, are quite frustrated because you feel like no one seems to notice you. 

Let me tell you this: Just let go and let God.

I remembered quite too well the time I was pregnant some 4years ago, I waited nine loooooooooooooooooong months before I can deliver my baby. And that process is called Gestation Period.

What can I do with the long wait? I cannot rush things and push my baby out the soonest I wanted. I was not frustrated. I was not depressed. I did not rush things up. The only thing I did was WAIT. I rested, trusted and believed God that my baby will come out with complete body parts, healthy and beautiful like me. (no pun intended)

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer believe that you have received it and it will be yours.” Mark 11:24


Don’t feel frustrated and depressed. God is definitely hearing all our prayers. Don’t get tired of waiting. God’s perfect time has not arrived it. Let go of that wanting, and Let God fulfill your prayers. Be thankful and grateful everyday. 

Waiting for a good (hot) man. 

 

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